tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post1030704171011441095..comments2024-02-11T03:39:05.836-05:00Comments on still life with circles: Cassandrastill life angiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-52976746684801252812010-01-05T16:04:33.941-05:002010-01-05T16:04:33.941-05:00i had a conversation with a friend who has 3 kids ...i had a conversation with a friend who has 3 kids about the exact same thing. her child was swinging upside down on her yoga swing. i was cringing and said, "maybe we should put a mat under him?" and it led to a very very heated discussion. <br />we are forever changed the way we view life. i don't want to be scared that a child in my presence can get hurt at any moment, but i am terrified of it. <br />i wonder about this for my future children.<br />this balancing act is so very tricky. and i'm not sure there is an answer.Lanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00963832673599410153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-23274370025122823552010-01-04T19:56:04.405-05:002010-01-04T19:56:04.405-05:00I'm so new to this but I'm so scared every...I'm so new to this but I'm so scared every day. So worried all of the time something is wrong, and it doesn't help that he screams. All the time. It is little wonder we rarely put him down for naps. I can watch him sleep when I hold him. I hope I can let some of my fears go and that Angus can have something that resembles a normal child hood. The poor kid, having a nutcase mother like me.Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-84508614953001076732010-01-04T15:06:23.666-05:002010-01-04T15:06:23.666-05:00Fantastic post. I am often jealous of people who l...Fantastic post. I am often jealous of people who live life certain that everything will be fine, what are the chances. When you're on the wrong side of the stats time after time, you know it doesn't matter what the chances are. It can still happen.Two Shorten the Roadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03552869938010784108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-60072966491573339722010-01-04T11:16:01.052-05:002010-01-04T11:16:01.052-05:00Yes- I just read that beginning post. that is how ...Yes- I just read that beginning post. that is how I feel right now! I just read the Gotami story in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, by Sogyal Rinpoche, I thank you again for your blog, it has helped me.kbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08560016878033426689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-87300235053894413922010-01-04T06:21:31.542-05:002010-01-04T06:21:31.542-05:00Actually, kb, the story of Kisa Gotami was one of ...Actually, kb, the story of Kisa Gotami was one of the first posts I ever made on this blog. If y'all are interested in very early raw stuff...<a href="http://stilllifewithcircles.blogspot.com/2009/02/kisa-gotami-and-mustard-seed.html" rel="nofollow"><br />Kisa Gotami and the Mustard Seed</a>.still life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-18063542126062852952010-01-04T02:13:02.307-05:002010-01-04T02:13:02.307-05:00Sigh, yes to everything you said.
I love your Crea...Sigh, yes to everything you said.<br />I love your Creative Everyday challenge, what a wonderful idea. I also wish to be more creative this year and will look to you for inspiration. xojanishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326099151319592743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-30609651829312825132010-01-03T23:48:19.427-05:002010-01-03T23:48:19.427-05:00"I cannot exactly campaign against the random..."I cannot exactly campaign against the random cruelty of the universe" grabbed me. I definitely feel as though my eyes are opened with respect to pregnancy and infant/maternal mortality after our son was stillborn last May....I've always been cautious with my older children and have one boy who climbed before he walked (seriously) and who is fearless. It's been hard, really hard, to mother the same way now as I did before. I can't even think about another loss and it's changed me. In so many ways. I love the Buddha story kb shared. I needed to read this and everyone's comments tonight. xoKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01771397595613026711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-47431743158708858312010-01-03T13:20:28.819-05:002010-01-03T13:20:28.819-05:00The walks to school get me this way, watching thre...The walks to school get me this way, watching three children alternately running and dawdling down the busy busy road, keeping my eyes everywhere...exhausting! Don't even get me started on the teenager taking herself to school, across busy roads and on public transport, sometimes when it's still dark out!Jeanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423818333034603238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-69182707665327147632010-01-03T12:04:58.349-05:002010-01-03T12:04:58.349-05:00Yes, this is a very good point. I am still trying...Yes, this is a very good point. I am still trying hard to find a balance between too much and too little. It doesn't help that Elizabeth is a daredevil with no sense of fear. I am trying to let her fall a little now so that she learns not to fall far later.HereWeGoAJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17457680345376171720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-43002950021021328802010-01-03T11:40:43.488-05:002010-01-03T11:40:43.488-05:00"Loss is not specific to me." yes! Just ..."Loss is not specific to me." yes! Just like Krisha Gotami when she lost her baby and went to the Buddha begging him to restore her little baby's life. Buddha said bascially if you can find one house in which there has never been a death, and bring a mustard seed back to him, her baby's life will be restored. So she went around and talked to the entire village, and not one house could answer her prayer. They had all seen countless deaths. And Buddha asked her why she still came back to him and she said,"Grief made me blind and I thought that only I suffered at the hands of death." Our hearts have been opened up by this terrible loss. Great post. thank you...kbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08560016878033426689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-45612322334241921202010-01-03T10:49:10.586-05:002010-01-03T10:49:10.586-05:00Oh yes. You've gone and jumped right into my h...Oh yes. You've gone and jumped right into my head. I think about these things everyday. Everyday, normal toddler/preschooler stuff becomes visualized as worst case scenario, because I've learned the worst can happen totally unexpectedly. Claire has always been a super physical & fearless girl, so it takes all my will to allow her some freedoms while still hovering. The big kid swing she insisted on swinging on yesterday....HIGHER and HIGHER...ack. And then she DID fall off and go kerplunk into the sand, I panicked but without a tear she promptly jumped up and said AGAIN. But when she complained an hour later her belly hurt, I was convinced she had some type of internal bleeding....nevermind she just needed a snack and the 'pain' was her belly growling. Iyiiyii. <br /><br />And I read about a young boy, hit and killed by a stray bullet while safely IN CHURCH and I wonder if we can ever really protect them at all?Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04324947171918038530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-11637615315440119452010-01-03T09:38:48.704-05:002010-01-03T09:38:48.704-05:00Yes, it takes every fibre of my being to let Ava w...Yes, it takes every fibre of my being to let Ava walk up down the stairs by herself, so I get where you're coming from.<br /><br />I'm actually really grateful in some ways that I didn't know or consider that Iris might die. Ignorance really was bliss. Now I just grit my teeth whenever anyone talks about odds or risk. I don't relish the Cassandra role either.<br /><br />xafter irishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13228758569220259464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-82272835121545766752010-01-03T07:52:59.271-05:002010-01-03T07:52:59.271-05:00Funny you should write this. My husband and I were...Funny you should write this. My husband and I were talking about this topic yesterday. I am not sure if you saw in the news recently that 2 children in our area have had TV tip over accidents. One died and the other is permanently brain damaged. After seeing this, I went out and bought a lock for my TV that you screw to the wall. I told 2 of my girlfriends with babies the same age as Denis and they just thanked me for telling them but then said their husbands would never go for it. Their husbands think they are high strung enough and that nothing will happen. Their husbands think bad things only ever happen to other people. And I felt offended by this although no offense was meant. I get it that people think bad things only happen to others, but why do you want to chance it? And why do they think they are immune? Once again, I end up looking like the neurotic one and just feeling like a freak.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-74429732751796956372010-01-03T06:41:55.901-05:002010-01-03T06:41:55.901-05:00I want to tell pregnant people how fragile is it a...I want to tell pregnant people how fragile is it and that the chances of something going wrong are much higher than they realise. I'm not sure why because it won't change anything in a lot of cases except to make them worry but I think a part of me does want them to worry like those of us who've lost babies do. <br /><br />There's always threads on the forum I read about 'can I eat this' and plenty of people reply saying 'I eat everything and my babies are fine. The risk of listeria is so low so don't worry about it.' I always want to tell them chance of Matilda having BWS was low (1 in 15 000) but when you're the '1' it doesn't matter how big the number on the other side is. <br /><br />My counsellor said she's overprotective but tries to apply an 'is it deadable?' frame of mind to it. Risk of falling a little way is OK, risk of falling a long way isn't. But as you've said, we can't remove all risk.Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15665878580598197034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-72204014096742418412010-01-03T06:39:51.405-05:002010-01-03T06:39:51.405-05:00Oh, Angie, I hear and feel everything you say. I s...Oh, Angie, I hear and feel everything you say. I support you all the way.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing.<br /><br />365, every day afresh.<br /><br />much love<br />Inesforward tumblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13720053232446432518noreply@blogger.com