tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post8927353730470745336..comments2024-02-11T03:39:05.836-05:00Comments on still life with circles: The healersstill life angiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-4331266664926745872009-05-09T02:26:00.000-04:002009-05-09T02:26:00.000-04:00Dear Angie, I am so sorry for you. I believe some ...Dear Angie, I am so sorry for you. I believe some healers think they can heal everyone, but as you know many of them cannot, and they have no idea the concept of death. Both with how to help or understand. The horrible way she has treated you, is so unbelievable, how could she be so insensative to your loss.<br />I really, deep in my heart feel for you, and if there is anyway I can help with your grief, I am here for you. I have set up a memorial blog if you would like, I'd be only to pleased to put a photo and message for you, just follow by your heart. If you would like to have a look my memorial blog page the url is: http://eternalnamesbythesea.blogspot.com/ and my own personal blog is http://sweetasparadise/blogspot.com/, where you can read about me, as well as the loss of my son Nicholas.<br />Kay xxxxkayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11613556666493990222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-81178119500322051542009-05-08T17:26:00.000-04:002009-05-08T17:26:00.000-04:00I am so sorry these people turned out to be such d...I am so sorry these people turned out to be such disappointments. It makes me want to punch something.CLChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08030787972960755420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-20819344365730642452009-05-06T21:01:00.000-04:002009-05-06T21:01:00.000-04:00angie, i've had some very similar experiences. my ...angie, i've had some very similar experiences. my childbirth educator never responded to the emailed we too sent out to everyone. my yoga teacher responded but it what she said was somewhat hurtful, and so i let her know that. when i didn't hear from the childbirth teacher i wrote her and said something very similar- if you can't deal with the death of a baby then you're in the wrong line of work. and really i do believe that there are far too many 'healers' in the pregnancy/birth world who have no clue what to do or say if a baby doesn't make it. and indeed i would not call them true healers.<br /><br />i wish lucy was with you to lie on the grass and giggle.<br /><br />sending you love,alizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435679393472275569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-7277470017432706492009-05-06T20:35:00.000-04:002009-05-06T20:35:00.000-04:00I'm probably one of the lucky ones as my yoga teac...I'm probably one of the lucky ones as my yoga teacher showed up to Hope's funeral and my pre-natal massage therapist has also sent some really nice emails. She was actually about 7 weeks behind me with her first pregnancy. Her son was born with a very rare and very dangerous respiratory condition that kept him in the NICU for the first three months of his life. He will have a very slow recovery. So she turned out to be more understanding than most - but then who knows how it might have been had everything gone peachy?<br />Angie I am so sorry. I can only imagine how much this email upset you. I think I probably would have kicked the lap top!<br />And like someone else said, I'm going to be thinking of you and Lucy sitting in the grass drinking tea for a very long time. That image will really stay with me I think.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-20603396161184900352009-05-06T19:14:00.000-04:002009-05-06T19:14:00.000-04:00My mantra these days is "if they were capable, the...My mantra these days is "if they were capable, they'd be doing it". I also waiver between that and "most people suck". Sigh. Wishing for gentler days ahead (for both of us).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-56149825757931970412009-05-06T18:44:00.000-04:002009-05-06T18:44:00.000-04:00sounds like they are leeches, living off the posit...sounds like they are leeches, living off the positive energy of others that are at good places in their lives, and unable to recycle some of that into basic human compassion.<br /><br />It has taken me time to find professionals to help me out physically. It's really tough to find somewhere I feel safe.Ya Chunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08816837461370619194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-12097845802164763232009-05-06T17:50:00.000-04:002009-05-06T17:50:00.000-04:00There are no excuses for the ignorant behavior of ...There are no excuses for the ignorant behavior of many, including those who are "healers" and have decided to consciously take on this role in other's lives.<br /><br />I teach prenatal yoga now (yup, read that one right), and one has to be absolutely ready for what comes. It is about being clear why one is teaching and about teaching from an authentic place. Jeez, just acknowledgment of what happened to you, your family, and Lucia would have made all the difference. You don't have to be all that enlightened to figure that out!<br /><br />I hope you find another teacher, it sounds like you are on the same search I am.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing the beautiful positive memories you have of Lucia and your strong conscious connection with her.Shanti Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13659456047704596334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-53292700354452995702009-05-06T14:58:00.000-04:002009-05-06T14:58:00.000-04:00I honestly think this post is a must-read to share...I honestly think this post is a must-read to share with all healers - good, bad, wanna be good ones. Your message is so clear and the question is so pointed, and important - how can you nurture life if you cannot deal with death. <br /><br />Angie, share this post! Make people "stumble" or "digg" it or whatever it is you do to make as many people as possible read it. I will too. <br /><br />xomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07830332489753742950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-68355920191442258702009-05-06T12:53:00.000-04:002009-05-06T12:53:00.000-04:00oh, crap.
they are certainly not healers. and you ...oh, crap.<br />they are certainly not healers. and you are right, they are not worth a dime if they can't deal with the end of a life.<br />I am sorry, this sucks.janishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326099151319592743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-9946857216870931802009-05-06T12:36:00.000-04:002009-05-06T12:36:00.000-04:00Wow. Just, wow. I like what Tash said too; "the po...Wow. Just, wow. I like what Tash said too; "the power of positive thinking" doesn't keep healthy babies from dying for no reason, and doesn't give so-called healers the ability to be present with that level of suffering. And I like Kellyann's reminder that those untrained in the art of healing can be more human--brave, compassionate, present--than those with spiritual pretensions. <br /><br />And those beautiful, tender, heartbreaking images of sun tea and a lovely girl who won't be tickled, they will stay with me.Kittnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-57965682295985622182009-05-06T12:27:00.000-04:002009-05-06T12:27:00.000-04:00I got the very same email from said massage therap...I got the very same email from said massage therapist, it made me angry all over again for you!ezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-52229274181949417042009-05-06T11:52:00.000-04:002009-05-06T11:52:00.000-04:00i am constantly amazed at the people who we would ...i am constantly amazed at the people who we would assume could show compassion and just totally miss the mark "offering you free yoga? gimme a break!" just remember, anyone can be an asshat. but then again i also think of the people who i would never expect to step up, who really don't have to, that are compassionate and kind. i think of the wonderful people in trader joe's who ask me each time i walk in how you are? how am i? and don't expect me to say, fine. they are taking 10 minutes out of their day to listen to my answer. and really listen. respond appropriately and give me a squeeze.kellyannnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8013443217504323406.post-36599790612848138302009-05-06T10:27:00.000-04:002009-05-06T10:27:00.000-04:00I have to say, this story makes me a wee bit ill.
...I have to say, this story makes me a wee bit ill.<br /><br />I think the problem with *some* "healers" is that they get it into their heads that their mojo (yoga, massage, religion, whatever) can heal <I>anything</I>. They are so high on positivity, and even negative energy can be diffused and turned on itself. They become blind to the notion that there is stuff out there that their bag of tricks cannot begin to handle -- at least in the way they're brandishing it. I think they're cowards, afraid to see their own limitations and face their own fears, and realize that sometimes you need to question your beliefs and see how you can push them to truly help others.<br /><br />Sadly, I believe these women aren't really "healers" -- I know wonderful, meaningful, sympathetic yoga and massage experts exist who deal with grief -- but simply "lifestyle experts." And their glossy catalogs don't begin to approach what happened to you.<br /><br />I took yoga for 8 years, quit when I moved here, and haven't taken it up since. For some reason just the opening lines of "relax, let everything go" make me want to jump up and punch something.Tashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07376651134993450207noreply@blogger.com